Trust means to believe. I trust you, means I have no doubt in my mind about your honesty, integrity and credibility. No relationship can survive without trust , because as soon as the trust breaks, the relationship breaks. Trust is the foundation on which a relationship is built. If you don’t trust a person, howsoever you may love him or her, your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in him or her.
I have many people in my life whm I trust to try very hard to help me out of a bad spot. I also have many people in my lyf whm I trust to share a "small" secret with. I trust that most people are basically good and want to do "the right thing". A good example of this might be if you are in a relationship and your partner takes up with another person, has an affair ..in short double dating. This is a strong violation of trust, however, again, we are all human and sometimes we do blatantly stupid things. Things that hurt other people, even when that was the farthest thing from our minds when we did it. So wht den? Do we refuse to trust them again, hold it over their heads for the rest of our lives, or run away vowing never to love again? Hmm...I guess it depends upon the ppl involved, the events, and really it boils down to what v want to do. I don't believe any of these things are better than the other, but some are just.....In my past I have been cheated on, as many ppl have.
What I'm saying is that v simply can't expect more from some1 than we are capable of giving ourselves, and none of us have clean hands....even though I'd like to sometimes convince myself I do...I know better. So we must put our hearts out there every now and again and just hope that it doesn't come back too shattered. Although, if we do it correctly, even if it does come back a little bruised, we know we'll get by....Why? Because the key to trust is trusting ourselves. Trusting ourselves to be OK when someone we love hurts us. Trusting ourselves to never give up hope that tomorrow will be brighter and that even if it's not, we'll patiently wait for OUR TIME...because we know it's coming. That's why I believe that the very best thing we can do for ourselves is this....when someone lets us down, betrays our trust or does something we consider untrustworthy, we forgive them. We understand their human too and sometimes they are going to put their needs above ours.
Does that mean we have to stay in a relationship with them? Of course not. We have the right, indeed the duty, to treat ourselves well. We HAVE to trust ourselves enough to at the very least take care of ourselves. Therefore, sometimes we need to end relationships, jobs, friendships, habits, etc..., because that's the best thing for us to do.
You really will grow stronger for having gone through it, and you really will be OK, even if you don't want to be....because that's how life works.
You really will grow stronger for having gone through it, and you really will be OK, even if you don't want to be....because that's how life works.
Be happy :)
Smile....lyf goes on................. :)
